{"id":100018702,"date":"2023-10-24T16:29:11","date_gmt":"2023-10-24T13:29:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/"},"modified":"2023-10-24T16:30:43","modified_gmt":"2023-10-24T13:30:43","slug":"gonul-yildirim-uretme","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/","title":{"rendered":"G\u00f6n\u00fcl Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m \u00dcretme"},"content":{"rendered":"

CV<\/strong><\/p>\n

Psychiatrist and a candidate psychoanalyst<\/span>. She continues      her psychoanalytic training<\/span> under Psike Istanbul and International Psychoanalytical Association<\/span> (IPA). A graduate of Cerrahpaşa University Faculty of Medicine, she completed her residency at     Erenköy Psychiatric Hospital. She works in private practice in İstanbul.<\/p>\n

RUTHLESS LOVE<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

According to Winnicott, there is no baby in the beginning, only the mother-infant dyad exists. The development<\/span> evolves from the mother-infant to a mother<\/span> and an infant. In this process, Winnicott speaks of the role of primary aggression in making differentiation<\/span> possible. He refers to primary aggression, which he sees as an element of love<\/span>, also as ruthless love<\/span>, maintaining that the baby bites the breast<\/span> to express his\/her love<\/span> and appetite but<\/span> the motivation<\/span> is not to cause harm. He argues that how the mother<\/span> responds to this situation plays a role in making sense of aggression. If the mother<\/span> responds as if the baby has done a very bad thing, the aggressive element, which is a part of love<\/span>, is separated from love<\/span> and left outside of integration<\/span>. Winnicott thinks that this is what leads to destructiveness. However, if the mother<\/span> does not succumb to this aggression and is able to survive, she allows the baby to destroy<\/span> and create the mother<\/span> over and over again in fantasy<\/span>. He underlines that apart from the survival of the real mother<\/span> during this process, accepting the reparative gifts of the baby is also of particular significance. The discovered external object<\/span>, unlike the created one, is the object<\/span> that can be used. The relation with the discovered object<\/span> is a relation with an object<\/span> that is rooted in the real world and is outside of the baby’s omnipotence<\/span>.<\/p>\n

In analytic work<\/span> where the treatment processes of the patients undergoing severe psychic<\/span> difficulties are concerned, the attitude that the analyst<\/span> will adopt in working with primary aggression holds great importance. The analyst<\/span>’s ability to be aware of and bear his\/her own hate, to not get caught up in the intensity of his\/her affective reactions, and continue to understand his\/her experience through the identification<\/span> with the patient offers some kind of a holding function<\/span>. Winnicott mentions the difficulty of maintaining the analytic stance<\/span> without resorting to retaliation.  He likens this to the task<\/span> of tolerating the hatred<\/span> that the mother<\/span> feels for her baby without making the baby pay a price. In a similar vein, if the analyst<\/span> can continue to survive even if s\/he feels hatred<\/span> in countertransference<\/span>, the analysand<\/span> can begin to settle and take root in the analytic setting<\/span>. In this presentation, I will attempt to illustrate this process through clinical examples.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

CV Psychiatrist and a candidate psychoanalyst. She continues\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0her psychoanalytic training under Psike Istanbul and International Psychoanalytical Association (IPA). A graduate of Cerrahpa\u015fa University Faculty of Medicine, she completed her<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[534],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-100018702","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psychoanalytical-views-speakers"],"yoast_head":"\nG\u00f6n\u00fcl Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m \u00dcretme - Psike \u0130stanbul<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"G\u00f6n\u00fcl Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m \u00dcretme - Psike \u0130stanbul\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"CV Psychiatrist and a candidate psychoanalyst. She continues\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0her psychoanalytic training under Psike Istanbul and International Psychoanalytical Association (IPA). A graduate of Cerrahpa\u015fa University Faculty of Medicine, she completed her\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Psike \u0130stanbul\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2023-10-24T13:29:11+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2023-10-24T13:30:43+00:00\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"csadmin\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"csadmin\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"2 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\\\/\\\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\\\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\\\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"csadmin\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/person\\\/4f6e97ca797fc2cebb53a16bd3c7a363\"},\"headline\":\"G\u00f6n\u00fcl Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m \u00dcretme\",\"datePublished\":\"2023-10-24T13:29:11+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2023-10-24T13:30:43+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\\\/\"},\"wordCount\":453,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/#organization\"},\"articleSection\":[\"Psychoanalytical Views Speakers\"],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\\\/\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\\\/\",\"name\":\"G\u00f6n\u00fcl Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m \u00dcretme - Psike \u0130stanbul\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2023-10-24T13:29:11+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2023-10-24T13:30:43+00:00\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\\\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\\\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\\\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Anasayfa\",\"item\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/en\\\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"G\u00f6n\u00fcl Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m \u00dcretme\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/\",\"name\":\"Psike \u0130stanbul\",\"description\":\"\u0130stanbul Psikanaliz E\u011fitim, Ara\u015ft\u0131rma ve Geli\u015ftirme Derne\u011fi\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/#organization\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Organization\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/#organization\",\"name\":\"Psike \u0130stanbul\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/\",\"logo\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/logo\\\/image\\\/\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2024\\\/05\\\/Psike-logo-tr-1.jpg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2024\\\/05\\\/Psike-logo-tr-1.jpg\",\"width\":528,\"height\":448,\"caption\":\"Psike \u0130stanbul\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/logo\\\/image\\\/\"}},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/person\\\/4f6e97ca797fc2cebb53a16bd3c7a363\",\"name\":\"csadmin\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/secure.gravatar.com\\\/avatar\\\/2e1009a865a67812b04878ec7f7dd2dd7f67714fe2aa1525bbd50a583af4c50c?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/secure.gravatar.com\\\/avatar\\\/2e1009a865a67812b04878ec7f7dd2dd7f67714fe2aa1525bbd50a583af4c50c?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\\\/\\\/secure.gravatar.com\\\/avatar\\\/2e1009a865a67812b04878ec7f7dd2dd7f67714fe2aa1525bbd50a583af4c50c?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"csadmin\"},\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/psikeistanbul.org\\\/en\\\/author\\\/csadmin\\\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"G\u00f6n\u00fcl Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m \u00dcretme - Psike \u0130stanbul","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"G\u00f6n\u00fcl Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m \u00dcretme - Psike \u0130stanbul","og_description":"CV Psychiatrist and a candidate psychoanalyst. She continues\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0her psychoanalytic training under Psike Istanbul and International Psychoanalytical Association (IPA). A graduate of Cerrahpa\u015fa University Faculty of Medicine, she completed her","og_url":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/","og_site_name":"Psike \u0130stanbul","article_published_time":"2023-10-24T13:29:11+00:00","article_modified_time":"2023-10-24T13:30:43+00:00","author":"csadmin","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"csadmin","Est. reading time":"2 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/"},"author":{"name":"csadmin","@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/#\/schema\/person\/4f6e97ca797fc2cebb53a16bd3c7a363"},"headline":"G\u00f6n\u00fcl Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m \u00dcretme","datePublished":"2023-10-24T13:29:11+00:00","dateModified":"2023-10-24T13:30:43+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/"},"wordCount":453,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/#organization"},"articleSection":["Psychoanalytical Views Speakers"],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/","url":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/","name":"G\u00f6n\u00fcl Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m \u00dcretme - Psike \u0130stanbul","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/#website"},"datePublished":"2023-10-24T13:29:11+00:00","dateModified":"2023-10-24T13:30:43+00:00","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/gonul-yildirim-uretme\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Anasayfa","item":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"G\u00f6n\u00fcl Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m \u00dcretme"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/#website","url":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/","name":"Psike \u0130stanbul","description":"\u0130stanbul Psikanaliz E\u011fitim, Ara\u015ft\u0131rma ve Geli\u015ftirme Derne\u011fi","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/#organization"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/#organization","name":"Psike \u0130stanbul","url":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Psike-logo-tr-1.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Psike-logo-tr-1.jpg","width":528,"height":448,"caption":"Psike \u0130stanbul"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"}},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/#\/schema\/person\/4f6e97ca797fc2cebb53a16bd3c7a363","name":"csadmin","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/2e1009a865a67812b04878ec7f7dd2dd7f67714fe2aa1525bbd50a583af4c50c?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/2e1009a865a67812b04878ec7f7dd2dd7f67714fe2aa1525bbd50a583af4c50c?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/2e1009a865a67812b04878ec7f7dd2dd7f67714fe2aa1525bbd50a583af4c50c?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"csadmin"},"url":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/author\/csadmin\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/100018702","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=100018702"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/100018702\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":100018704,"href":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/100018702\/revisions\/100018704"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=100018702"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=100018702"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psikeistanbul.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=100018702"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}